21 Jan 2005
E. Wayne Askew, PhD
As one of thousands on a personal quest to be the best person, companion, friend, lover, colleague, etc., you are profoundly affected by the way you use and choose words.
From the early times of our childhood – when we grapple with our first words – to the days when words flow so freely onto a high school term paper or to our defense during an argument, the effect of our words on ourselves as well as others can contribute or detract from our overall health.
One such study on the effects of words can be found in a wonderful book written by Japanese scientist, Dr. Masaru Emoto entitled: The Hidden Messages in Water. In this book, Dr. Emoto reveals his personal, scientific study into the relationship between words, thoughts, music and pictures, and the health and harmony of water at the molecular level. According to Dr. Emoto’s findings, we start our lives as fetuses, existing as 99 percent water, and being born retaining 90 percent of that. At adulthood, we drop to 70 percent and can decline to 50 percent water at the time of our death. What does this mean and why is this important? Keep in mind that we, as humans, from a physical perspective exist mainly of water.
This realization propelled Dr. Emoto onto a path that found him conducting several experiments such as his infamous photography exhibit where he took several bottles of distilled water and taped different words to them. Leaving the words taped to the bottles and, at times, having the word read aloud to the water produced an amazing reaction in the water. After photographing molecules of the water, he discovered that positive words like “love” and “thank you” produced delicate and beautiful formations, while negative words like “you fool” and “I hate you” produced violent, scattered images.
The Hidden Messages in Water then continues on to reveal the effects different types of music, pollution and technology have on water as well. It’s a truly interesting perspective that will – should you take the time to indulge in this fascinating read – shed a whole new light on what it means to choose your words wisely.
As human beings who feel a great deal, it’s not always easy for us to censor ourselves in the heat of a moment or when physical pain is involved. But, here’s something to try the next time you are in a heated discussion with a loved one or involved in a meeting that causes you some stress:
If you feel the urge to blurt something out, pause and take a deep breath
In your mind, recite this simple thought: “I know that there is a wonderful being in each of us, and I want to see it in you and I want you to see it in me”
Take another deep breath
The above exercise was passed onto me by one of my mentors and continues to work wonders in my life today. From here, you can go a step further and examine any negative speech patterns you may have and develop alternative phrases that have a more positive impact. It may be as simple as not using the word “stupid” in reference to yourself or anyone around you. Keep in mind that covering your emotions with “happy” words or suppressing your feelings in any way will not make your troubles miraculously disappear, it’s more that doing little things to ease tension in yourself will – as Dr. Wayne Dyer, one of the masters of the intention behind words, so eloquently puts it – “change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.” All of which contribute, in the long run, to a healthier you.